and now i can’t speak…
sounds dramatic. it’s not. it’s mouth pain. dumb, pain in the ass (figuratively speaking) mouth pain. went to the dentist for a crown for my root canal (king root canal deserves a crown) and they put this temporary crown on king root canal and now it hurts. and there are only two words that one can say when confronted with mouth pain. those words are, of course, ‘ow’ and ‘fuck’. used in conjunction they can be better than aspirin. as in ‘ow, fuck’.
see, i feel better already.
and while i’m on the subject (deft move from one topic to another, don’t you agree?), isn’t it contradictory for people to talk about the perils of unsafe sex and yet not offer viable alternatives? this has always bugged me.
the crazy right-wingers will say ‘oh, just abstain’, the crazy left-wingers will say ‘always use a condom’, but what about the hundreds of millions of sexually active people who don’t abstain and don’t use condoms? saying ‘abstain’ or ‘use a condom’ has only a limited impact.
so how about some alternatives?
this might sound very odd, and i’m not being facetious, but people don’t need to have penetrative intercourse in order to be sexually satisfied.
and here’s where the lingo gets a bit odd…but what about sexual alternatives for people who aren’t using condoms and aren’t abstaining? i.e-hand jobs? manual stimulation? oral sex? etc?
i’m being completely earnest when i say that our collective squeamishness in discussing the merits of a good hand job is causing the spread of std’s and causing pregnancies.
really.
this might sound like i’m trying to be inflammatory or risque, but i do believe that there are a lot of sexual things that two (or more) people can do that are safe and that don’t involve penetrative intercourse. but these things are never discussed. instead you get the ‘a.b.c’s of ‘safe sex’
a-abstain
b-barrier(condoms, dams, etc)
c-commited partner
and those are all fine things. but sexual options for people who choose not to abstain, use condoms, or have commited partners, will save lives, reduce pregnancies, and slow the spread of std’s.
i might sound like a crackpot, but i think that what i’m saying here has great merit.
if we are serious about slowing the spread of std’s and reducing the rates of unwanted pregnancies then we should start a healthy and constructive dialog regarding viable and non-penetrative sexual options for people who want to have sex with each other. if the pro-life people were serious about halting the spread of unwanted pregnancies then they would give out little pamphlets showing men and women how to give each other good hand jobs. really. i’m serious. ditto for planned parenthood. pamphlets and education that tought people how to have fun and safe non-penetrative intercourse would be valuable and would save lives.
sorry if i sound like a crackpot, but it can be exasperating to see an easy solution to a problem (the spread of std’s and unwanted pregnancies) that’s being ignored due to our collective squeamishness.
thanks,
moby