in times of tragedy such as these, people grieve and cope in very different ways.
i hope that we can do our best to be patient with one another and accomodate each other in our different forms of grieving and coping.
some people cope by getting angry, some people cope by being sad, some people cope with humour, some people cope by going numb, and so on.
we all cope differently. and i really hope that we can accomodate other peoples forms of grieving and coping even if they differ from ours.
if you’re feeling sad and your friends are feeling angry, that’s fine.
the most important thing is that we be there for each other and that we support one another, even if we react to tragedy in different ways.
maybe i’m stating the obvious here, but i’ve watched people argue about how to cope.
angry people getting upset at sad people for not being angrier.
sad people getting upset at numb people for not being sad.
etc.
we need to be compassionate and patient with each other, that’s all.
and as tempting as it is to want to be rash and jump to snap judgements, i don’t believe that now is that time for that. now is the time for friendship and solidarity and support and healing, or so i believe.
there will be plenty of time to take personal and political action in the future. but for now i hope that we can all just be there for each other.
-moby